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A friend of mine passed away suddenly yesterday. It doesn’t make today feel very beautiful. But she sure was.

When Regi and I lived on Long Island between 1993 and 1996, she was my husband’s assistant. This sums it up: she assisted anyone with anything they could ever possibly need. And somewhere between filing, arranging, phone calls, and ordering bagels, we became friends. Though many knew her better, I am honored to have known her like I did.

I remember when she invited us into her home and served us lunch at the massive dinner table with all those kids staring at us (seven in all). There was plenty of laughter that day, and every other day for that matter. My fondest memory has to be when she skipped church with me to go have Java’s (our dog) picture taken with Santa Claus. She waited patiently in line with me for over an hour. I could talk to her about the people who got me down, and then ask her to pray for me. Simply put, she only knew one way: giving out of the kindness and generosity of a pure heart that never asked for anything in return.

Over the last few years, we talked very infrequently. But when we did, it was as though yesterday didn’t exist. It was today again and there was only a parking lot separating us. We swore last year that we would make a trip to see each other, perhaps meeting in the middle somewhere, if only for a day. But life got busy, she was blessed by 23 (and counting) grandkids, and it never happened.

I am grateful to have seen how she loved the Lord with her whole being. She didn’t have to tell anyone about her Christian experience because she lived it. By offering enduring encouragement, her beautiful laughter, and excessive amounts of love that poured from her servant’s heart. She was one of the truest women of God I’ve ever known.

I spoke to her for the last time on March 29th. I know this because it was her birthday. Yet she sent me flowers to celebrate Beautiful Thursday. When the doorbell rang, I thought, “Ugh. I don’t have time for this.” However, sitting on the doorstep was a boquet of flowers straight from New York to Nashville. The words she wrote brought tears to my eyes because once again, all she knew to do was lift someone else up. Thoughtful. Concerned. Insiteful. True. A friend to so many.

When I started blogging, she made sure she read. Not only did she read, she commented without fail. Last night I took a minute to find all her comments and it was as though I could hear her whispering from the sidelines. Every word she penned felt like she was sharing a treasure. I am eternally grateful that I picked up the phone after the flowers arrived to thank her and share a laugh. I told her that I would have to do a Beautiful Thursday on her and her kindness to which she heartily said, “Don’t you dare!” And laughed. (Can you tell that was what she was known for?)

Today is the first Beautiful Thursday of eternity that Kit gets to sit at the feet of her beautiful Savior. The One who put the laughter into her heart. The One who taught her how to serve. The One who used her to touch the world around her. And while there are many things I could regret, like not making a trip to see her, I choose to not lament the sorrow. She would not take any joy from that. I will give thanks for who she was. That her journey is over. And that I knew her for such a short time compared to the forever that we will one day spend together.

In her memory, please take this Beautiful Thursday and remind someone how special they are. Don’t be afraid to lavish your compliments on someone a dozen states away. Plan a trip with someone, even if it doesn’t happen. Send flowers to the person who crosses your mind, for absolutely no reason. You will leave a mark that will never be forgotten.

And above all, laugh. Give life all you’ve got. Pass on to your kids, your grandkids. Leave it in your chair so that it embraces the next person who takes your place.

The last comment Kit made to me was from May 11th  about being a mom, something she did well. There is great meaning in her words we would all do well to remember:

Embrace the moments, which will quickly turn into years, and you will see before you, standing tall, the adults you poured your life and soul, heart and prayers into.

We stand tall because we knew her. We will never forget the beautiful, witty, Godly, kind and generous person she was. Katherine Farrell, we will always treasure the beautiful gift  you’ve been to us.

Please remember to pray for peace that passes all understanding as her husband, children, their spouses, her grandkids, and the rest of her family face the days ahead. 

 

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29 Comments

  1. Tanya on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    Kim, what a lovely tribute. Sending hugs your way today and prayers for her family. I’m sure she will be greatly missed.

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

      Thanks, Tanya. It was so sudden and I think that is what is most difficult. Her family is strong but like most moms, she was the glue!

  2. Elina on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    Kim, what a beautiful blog! I have a “Kit” in my life~ I’m reaching out to her today! Thank you for always making me stop to smell the flowers! I will keep her family in my prayers.

    Thank you for always sharing!

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

      Thanks, Elina. The more time goes on, the more I find myself stopping to remember what the flowers look like. May we never live with regret! Thanks for reading.

  3. Loriann Margiotta on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    Kim, outstanding and very well put! Your an amazing woman of God, and may the peace of God continue to hold you, comfort you, and may the joy of the Lord continue to be your strength. Your right we let too much time, and not enough said that needs to be said. It’s has been a true blessing for the Margiotta family to have shared 3 wonderful years together. God Bless you and your family. Love you! Lori Margiotta

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 25, 2012 remarked #

      Loriann, I know you are a proud Mama of those beautiful kids and how their lives have taken shape. Kit was a wonderful example of a great Mom as you are. I’m glad our paths crossed and even though we don’t see each other, the memories are still fresh in my mind of our time at SGT. God is good…and we have to trust His hand in all things.

  4. Monica Oliver on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    Kim,

    Thank you for your Beautiful Thursday Tribute to Kit. Very well said. Kit was a wonderful woman of God and has touched us all in wonderful ways. I pray her family will be comforted by the Lord.

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 25, 2012 remarked #

      We had some fun with her and at her expense, that’s for sure. What fun years those were at SGT and I’m glad we all have that time to look and laugh on. Regi is going back next year for a choir retreat and I can’t even imagine what it will be like without seeing her. But I trust God and His sovereign Hand. It won’t be easy to live without her, and I know her kids are in such pain, but it’s times like these when we have to trust God. In case I haven’t said it in about twenty years…love you!

  5. Rae Harff on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    Kim that was so beautifully stated. Kit was a very special woman of God. She was a very private person, but at the same time, full of laughter. You never knew when she would play a practical joke on you. Many laughs, many tears and many memorable moments when we worked together. She will be missed. Your words were right-on! Bless you for sharing.

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

      Thanks Rae. I know you are full of stories of wonderful times spent in the office. We have much to be thankful for that we learned from her.

  6. Cindy Cullison on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    Kit probably never knew a stranger. What a wonderful legacy she lived and left for her family and friends. She’s doing a “Beautiful Thursday” dance in honor of her graduation. Thanks for writing such a special tribute.

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 25, 2012 remarked #

      Cindy, it’s toughest when you never thought you’d be writing these words about someone now. She was so loved and such a bright spot in the world to all who knew her. She poured her heart and soul into her family and job. She loved working for the Lord and serving and always always did it with a smile. She blessed me so much, especially over these last few months. I am grateful I have the words she spoke to me that I can treasure and look at when I’m having a bad day. She will be truly missed.

  7. Melissa on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    Kim, what a beautiful tribute to such an amazing woman. You truly captured the essence of Kit. As I’ve read through all the notes on Facebook about her and posted my own, I’ve noticed that we’ve all touched on her kindness, love for the Lord, compassion, and the joy and laughter she shared with everyone. What an inspiriational life she has led!

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 25, 2012 remarked #

      So true, Melissa. It makes you realize that life is too short to hold grudges, be grumpy, or depressed or anything other than happy like Kit was. These are the moments we have been given and we have the choice to inspire our children, and grand children one day, to live whole heartedly for the Lord. With a smile on our faces, and our eyes kept on Him. Thank you for reading!!

  8. pinkie on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    thank you for sharing such a lovely lady. when i was young i was afraid to get old and wrinkly. now that im approaching that old wrinkly state ive met so many “old” people that ive come to the conclusion that as our youthful looks fade the beauty of our souls shines thru.

    deeply sorry for your loss

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 25, 2012 remarked #

      Pinkie, you are right. I think I dread it as well and often wish for a few of those years to come back. But we have to set our eyes on Heaven because it’s greater and more magnificent than anything this old world can offer us. Thank you for reading!

  9. Anne-Marie Kessler on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    Kim,

    This is such a wonderful tribute to a great person! Your words are beautiful. Thanks for reminding me what life is about. I will certainly miss my Aunt Kit.

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 25, 2012 remarked #

      Anne-Marie, I can only imagine what she’d say if she saw all this fuss she was getting! :) But she deserves it! I don’t remember a time when I’ve seen so many beautiful things said as what I’ve seen said about your Aunt Kit. I knew she touched many, but I had no idea how many. I am so glad she was my friend. I’ve cried many tears, but I tell you, I have an underlying peace because she is with the One she loves most. Prayers to you all now and in the days ahead.

  10. Karri Misky on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    What a beautiful tribute to your sweet friend.

  11. Kathleen Weston on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    Thank you. Aunt Kit will be missed. You captured her beautifully. Thank you.

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 25, 2012 remarked #

      Kathleen, I am so sorry for your loss. I’m praying for the entire family, especially as her service approaches, because I know how difficult that day may be. God is good and He will bring you comfort. Prayers to you.

  12. Barbara Slocki on the May 24, 2012 remarked #

    Kim, this was truly beautiful. What a beautiful tribute to a remarkable woman. Kit, will forever live in the hearts of all those she touched. Her kindness,beautiful smile, generous spirit & words of encouragement blessed me and others many, many times! Kit, you are one of a kind. I know that you are rejoicing in the presence of our Lord & Savior & that brings us some comfort knowing you are with the Father. May God’s loving hands comfort your family and those who loved you very much.

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 25, 2012 remarked #

      Barbara, you’re are right in that she will live forever in the lives she touched. I smile when I think of her in the presence of Jesus, the place she has thought about her whole life. Now she’s there! And we can rejoice because we will see her again. It doesn’t mean we won’t miss her desperately, but I know beyond a doubt, she wouldn’t trade it for anything. I’m glad you were touched by her as well. We are the lucky ones, huh?

  13. Paula Vance on the May 25, 2012 remarked #

    I am totally blessed by this posting, it is a tribute to her and those who knew and loved her. Thankyou for sharing!

    • Kimberlee Stone on the May 25, 2012 remarked #

      You’re welcome, Paula. Words can’t adequately describe all those wonderful things about her!

  14. Patsy Galloway on the May 27, 2012 remarked #

    Oh, still-beautiful Kim!!!! That means both inside and out! You were always just that precious, Kim, and so loved by the Galloway family!
    Thanks for that beautiful read that I really just stumbled upon today. Timing is perfect, Kim! Just saying…
    Love,
    Patsy Galloway

    • Kimberlee Stone on the June 1, 2012 remarked #

      That means so much coming from one of my favorite teachers of all times!! Fourth grade is a year I’ll never forget. Thanks for loving me and for raising a sweet daughter that is so beautiful. I greatly appreciate you!

  15. David Farrell on the July 1, 2012 remarked #

    I’ve read your post for what feels like over a hundred times. I hold it close to me and cherish it as I continue to grieve the loss of my mother. It gives me peace everytime I read it and has been the single most important tool that I have used in recovering from the tradgedy of my mothers death. She was my friend, my partner in crime, my mentor, my source of happiness, my escape and my love. She meant the world to our father, together they were my heroe Thank you so very very much!

    • Kimberlee Stone on the July 20, 2012 remarked #

      David, I still ache for your loss. I have to pinch myself to remember that she’s not going to comment on this blog, a picture of my kids, or pop up anywhere else in my life with her unmistakable laugh or an encouraging word. In turn, I can’t imagine how deep the grief goes that any of her children are experiencing; I only hope that in time peace that passes all understanding will carry you. She was so proud of her kids and grandkids and I know you’ve heard that a million times. You all are her greatest legacy and the prayers she said for each of you by name will continue on. Thank you for your kind words about this blog; you echoed her heart as I read this and I saw a piece of her in you. You are one lucky man to have had her in your life!

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