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Today I am starting something new. Maybe it will trend. Oh, yeah that’s it; you’ve got to use the right language if you want anything to catch on now.

Whatever. (No, make that Whatevs. That’s how Sophie would say it.)

I recently stalked looked at one of my friend’s albums on FB. I was so surprised by one pic that I immediately private messaged her with, “There are few women in the world that can show up * , but you did by 1,000000000,0000000 degrees. I just needed to tell you once again how absolutely beautiful you are!!”

[* She was standing next to a well-known person but all names have been removed to protect the person who didn't know she was going to get her picture taken that day]

I knew she wouldn’t say, “Oh, thank you. That is so sweet,” in case it bordered on prideful. But I promise you, she could have. She should have. She’s one of those drop dead gorgeous women who has all the right attributes and always looks amazing. I’ve seen her give out of the abundance of her heart, and help people around her. There is so much about her that is beyond wonderful, but I admit my compliment was aimed solely on how great she looked.

That is why her response affected me so deeply.

At first she said, “I don’t even know how to respond to such a compliment. I will humbly accept it and thank you so much. It means a lot to me…”

The she wrote, “Unfortunately my confidence has kind of dwindled over these last few years. It’s my fault for letting people, who could really care less about me, have that power. I am slowly getting it back, with strength from the Lord. My husband is very complimentary and very loving and affectionate. As long as the Lord and he are happy with me the way I am then that’s all that should matter.”

As I lay in bed that night, her comments played over in my head. How could she, a confident and strong woman, feel as low as it sounded? Don’t beautiful people know they are just that?! I’ll tell you why it was difficult for her. Because words are powerful. And she has lived in the midst of angry words for many years.

Words break, and they build. They are rainbows, and they are tornadoes.

Words can bring a person to their knees, and render them useless. Incorrectly used, they crush the spirit of the strong. Used properly, they inspire people to their fullest.

We must use our words wisely. We must find more ways to raise people up. Certainly you know the good, and bad, that words can do to us.

Compliments have caused me to do silly things like turn the music up as loud as I can in my car and dance so that people who pass can see.  They have caused me to sing at the top of my lungs in my house. I even talk faster. Why? Because I feel good. I look at the sky differently and have a new appreciation for the warm air as it brushes against my bare leg…and those are things I don’t when I’m feeling stepped on. All because I’m confident. All because I feel loved. And because someone chose to speak words of life to me. And I’m realizing I don’t use my words to build people up enough either.

So I am calling today Beautiful Thursday. I want to use my voice, this space, to encourage each of us together to find someone and tell them they are beautiful.

Will you do that today?

If you’re feeling a bit freaked out, let me help you. Here are a few pointers. Repeat after me:

  • You are a beautiful person, inside and out! (Very over used, but oh so powerful because beauty is much more than what we see at face value.)
  • You have the most wonderful smile. It makes me happy whenever I see it. (You can take it one step further and actually find something a person that is beautiful. Maybe replace it with “your eyes” or “your hair” or “your shoes.” Come on, you can do it. You can find something about every one you come in contact with that is beautiful and needs to be told. Even strangers!)
  • I am grateful to have you in my life. You are a beautiful friend. (There’s something about the words “grateful” that causes me to pause. I don’t use that word lightly. Neither should you. This way, when you do tell that to someone, they know how much you mean it.)
  • I love you. (A classic that needs no explaining.

 

It’s Beautiful Thursday. Now go and find someone and tell them just how beautiful they are!

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15 Comments

  1. Tanya on the March 8, 2012 remarked #

    Great post Kim! I hope it does become a trend. I reposted you.

    • Kimberlee Stone on the March 8, 2012 remarked #

      Thanks, Tanya. When I write, I simply spell out what I need to do more often. So here it goes…you are a beautiful friend and I’m so glad our paths crossed! Wow…that was easy. Love you!

  2. Anonymous on the March 8, 2012 remarked #

    Kimberlee
    After reading your blog I have no doubt you wrote this about my Mother. I am posting as Anonymous to keep her name out of this as I know she would not want the attention.

    I appreciate all the kind words about her and you are correct in all that you said. She is a truly beautiful woman on the outside as well as inside. I am blessed to have a Mother like her. She has the biggest heart in the world and has passed her loving caring nature down to both of her children. Her Godly nature is truly inspiring.

    Your words have touched me and I cannot say enough about your blog.

    I cannot thank you enough for writing this as you echo what we have always told her. I only wish that everyone was as blessed as I am to have a woman like her to call Mom.

    • Kimberlee Stone on the March 8, 2012 remarked #

      I am so glad you can see the beauty in your mom; I have a feeling it’s not that way for every one. I probably don’t tell my own mom how much she means to me. I know first hand that the dynamics within a family can prove to be difficult ground to trod, but eventually hearts soften and prayerfully, walls fall away and the true beauty of a person like your mom is fully felt. Keep loving her. She is clearly blessed one to have you as a daughter!

      • Anonymous on the March 8, 2012 remarked #

        Thank you for your reply. My reply may have sounded like something my sister would say but I am her son LOL

    • Anonymous on the March 8, 2012 remarked #

      I anonymously feel the same way. She is my mother too, and I could not have said it better than my brother did. She is an amazing woman, and a treasure to have as a mother.

      • Kimberlee Stone on the March 8, 2012 remarked #

        You are a treasure as well. Must come from some good family! ;)

  3. Kim Stevens on the March 8, 2012 remarked #

    Wow….you amaze me with your simple but so needed words. I could listen to you all day. You my friend are truly beautiful on the inside and out. Thank you for sharing what so many of us need to hear and live out.

    • Kimberlee Stone on the March 8, 2012 remarked #

      My sweet friend, Kim…I am learning as I go. Writing out what I feel somehow makes me feel a bit more accountable to follow through. Thank you so much for your support and your always beautiful words. You are a treasure!

  4. Mommakisses on the March 8, 2012 remarked #

    My Sweet friend, your words continue to challenge and amaze me. A wonderful reminder to make the world a better place by doing what you can around you. Even more, this has reminded me I need to make sure my girls… and boys… hear how beautiful they are from their dad and me. Daily. Truly the world would be a better place for all if we could find the beauty in the people we stand shoulder to shoulder with rather than all the junk they find on their own. Our positive voices need to be louder than that negative voice in their head! Thank you!

    • Kimberlee Stone on the March 9, 2012 remarked #

      Beth, I try to make sure people know that when I write, I’m basically writing what I’m dealing with. So I echo your words on needing to tell my kids more just how beautiful they are, no matter what grade they come home with and no matter if they’ve let me down. We are in this together! By the way, I think you are a beautiful example of a beautiful mom!!

  5. Betty Jo on the March 8, 2012 remarked #

    One of our great commandments ” love one another”. And that doesn’t mean only the ones that are “easy” to love. Sometimes the ones that seem “difficult to love” are the ones that need it the most. I have always found it easy to love you, Kim because I have found you to be “real”. Thanks for reminding me that I need to love everybody and be especially greatful for the “beautiful” people in my life and there are many.

    • Kimberlee Stone on the March 9, 2012 remarked #

      Betty, I couldn’t have said it any better. Sometimes I find it easier to love people I barely know than those closest to me…ever feel that way? Thank you for your compliment too; walking around trying to be someone else just wasn’t working for me. So I finally let the real me come out, flaws and all, and it sure feels good. I love you! You are beautiful!

  6. Emily Ann Selden on the March 9, 2012 remarked #

    “Words break, and they build. They are rainbows, and they are tornadoes.” Love it. You’re right on the money. I have actually been making it a habit to tell people how beautiful they are and how much I love them, then I read your blog and it came to me why: we are all fighting so hard to stay afloat. When I see your picture I think how beautiful YOU are. :) Love you!

    • Kimberlee Stone on the March 12, 2012 remarked #

      Emily, thank you! But you are the beautiful one when you tell people how beautiful and loved they are because that one person may never hear that. When we see them as beautiful, we see them as Jesus does…that’s powerful stuff. I’m hoping Beautiful Thursday catches on!

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